thereseFish
Hi there, well a little about me. My weight problem started with having my first baby. I went from 98 pounds to 200. My marriage broke up after a year and I moved home to California with my son. The first visit my ex got with my son, he kidnapped him. I was devastated. He took him 3000 miles away from me to his neighborhood. My mom and flew there and everywhere we went he had just left. I was pregnant with my second child at the time and began bleeding and had to return home. I sought the help of a Attorney who sold me false information, He told me to agree to joint custody and when I get my first visit to go back to court and get full custody. He said being in different states makes it harder. And I couldn't afford all the legal fees. Well needles to say I lost it and turned to drugs to hide my pain (meth). I nearly lost my baby to an abusive man and drugs but got sober, gained weight. I went back to my 2nd husband only to Use again until my third baby ( still haven't gotten my son back yet) I finally got sober while pregnant with my 3rd child and moved away from California, my husband left with me, he was also sober. I gained weight really bad from all the home cookin, got up as high as 250lbs. My husband left me saying I was too fat and ugly to be with anymore. I went up to 299 lbs. So I moved back to California ,got back on drugs and lost all my weight. I went through another marriage, more drama, drugs and another sobriety period with weight gain. Marriage fell apart so back on drugs I went. I realized I was out of control and needed to do something different. I asked my girls father to take our girls while I got sober. Between guilt over not having my son, guilt of sending my girls away, I really lost it.Went to jail. It took me 5 years to get straightened out and get my girls back, but I did it. I remarried a 4th time to a man I thought would be the one forever, he was with me when I finally got my son back, who was now 16. Yet having my 3 children and my sick father was more than he could handle, he started cheating and lying. This marriage breaking up was the worst, I became very depressed. Stayed sober but got bigger and bigger. Then I broke my back on my job which made things even harder to deal with then With my children becoming adults and moving away, my father passing away my depression became out of control like my life. I went into a mental hospital that put me on medication, I began to feel better but living alone, I ate when I was bored, I ate when I felt depressed, I ate...ate...ate. My depression got worse with the weight gain, I never felt more alone. After a second mental hospital stay, my mother came and brought me home with her. She had put me into my own home for over a year now, paying my rent and everything as I couldn't. She helped me get on SS disability. This too made me sad. I hated being such a birded on her. I was put on Bipolar medication in the first hospital which was helping me gain weight( we didn't know this at the time). Against advice I stopped taking the bipolar medication. I did however stay on the depression Med. Once I started receiving my own income and medicare, I began getting better through many doctors visits, and having several different surgery's. Once we knew that I had several serious health issues, and I joined the YWCA, I began losing weight on my own. Through the grace of God I met a woman at the YWCA who had the RNY surgery and she referd me to Dr. Michael Williams in Atlanta GA. With all the medical problems and my weight problems I was approved to have surgery. My mothers Best friend loaned me what money I needed to put up first and away I went. I surgery on September 11th, 2008.
