Leslie H.

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Sharon Neva 23 years, 7 months ago

LESLIE~~ I'M SORRY THAT YOU'RE FEELING SO DOWN... May you always have an Angel by your side. Watching out for you in all the things you do. Reminding you to keep believing in brighter days. Finding ways for your wishes and dreams to come true. Giving you hope that is as certain as the sun. Giving you the strength of serenity as your guide. May you always have love and comfort and courage.

MommaAngel 23 years, 8 months ago

HI LESLIE I just want you to know that I am praying that you will have a quick and smooth recovery to the losing side. LORD BLESS

gale C. 23 years, 8 months ago

leslie= LOLOLOLOL!!! i am telling you it was so nasty!! it did smell like grape koolaid. i have 26 days left until the surgery and i am really hoping to find a drink that i like, i will keep looking!! take care, gale

sannjaz 23 years, 8 months ago

Leslie your email was ok, I don't mind reading. You can tell me your life history any time you want :-). Your Dr.'s office is a trip, but you know what so was mine. My Dr. who weighted about 125 pounds wet told me that all I need to do is stop eating. If it was that easy I wouldn't be over weight. I'm sorry to hear that your family is not very supportive because right now support is what you need. My family all except my sister Nique was not supportive in the beginning. Both my father and mother are ministers and they told me that God can do anything just ask and believe that he will do it, but Leslie after awhile believing and not seeing results discourages a person, eventually my family came around. WELL LESLIE I SUPPORT YOU AND YOU ARE NOT ALONE. You can contact me anytime. Have you seen my website I developed? It's not that spectacular, but I wanted to tell a little bit about my story. Go to my page and tell me what you think. Keep me updated with your progress on getting the surgery approved. I will try to write a least once a day so check your page frequently. What was the insurance's response when you told them about weight watcher's and that your Dr. doesn't monitor diet plans? Talk to you soon. Keep your head up.

sannjaz 23 years, 8 months ago

Leslie. Hello. I wanted to tell you that you need to stay on the insurance company first and foremost. ASK QUESTIONS----DEMAND TO KNOW WHY they turned your new pre-cert over to appeals due to a formal denial after they instructed you to go that route. Did you get the name of who gave you that information? As far as your doctor's office, it depends on how much you are willing to fight for what you want. I struggled for 4 months between my health insurance and my doctor's office. DO YOU HAVE AN HMO or PPO? Let me know, I'll be waiting to respond.

Carmen K. 23 years, 8 months ago

Hi Leslie..........your doctor is wrong and you are right on getting a panni. He is not a plastic surgeon and is out of the loop insurance wise on this topic. First off, a panni is not plastic surgery. It's done for medical reasons. Very different from a tummy tuck. If you have a hernia that's a plus for the panni. Don't bother asking your regular doc about it cause he flat has no idea. Start talking to plastic surgeons when the time comes and they can guide you. After your panni then you can tell your regular doc how insurance can and many times will cover it depending on the company. Best Wishes. :)

Maggie V. 23 years, 8 months ago

Just wanted to let you know that you were not mistaken. I have heard of several people getting the panni done and coveraged by ins. If you get rashes or infections that it could be medically nessecary. Also you might want to check any community hospitals around the area cause if you donate the skin they ususally will do the tummy tuck for very little money.

Leslie H. 23 years, 9 months ago

Well, thanks to all who have been so supportive. I think my family may actually come around, but either way I intend to take all of your kind advice and "keep my eye on the ball". I know this is the right thing for me to do and I can do this!!! I deserve it. I'll keep you posted.

Carmen K. 23 years, 9 months ago

Dear Leslie........Sorry about your family troubles. It's hard to take when people who never studied up on the topic of WLS suddenly know all about it. A lot of people had to go through family viciously squaking at them and it's very hard. Only you can decide for yourself what to do but if you decide on the surgery there are plenty here that will support you when friends and family fail you. Just try to stay strong and don't hold any grudges. They almost always come around when you lose your excess weight and they see just how healthy and happy you've become. Take care and God bless! :)

Rosella B. 23 years, 9 months ago

Hello! You don't know me but I couldn't help but write to you. I'm sorry that your family is sticking it to you over this surgery. It seems to me that they're feeling very threatened by your decision to take control of your life. If they are legitimately concerned with your well-being, then give them ways to help and they should be glad to do it. However, they may just be afraid that you might actually change who you are and become more HAPPY, something they may not be themselves. We humans are very resistant when people close to us change -- it's kind of like we have changed the steps in the middle of the dance and everyone's thrown off balance. From a logical standpoint, with what you've been through in the past, they should be MORE willing to give you some support rather than scare you into submission. Even if they are genuinely concerned, how dare they worry you! Rather than let them accuse you of being selfish, you should suggest they offer to help you MORE to help insure that your surgical experience is as low stress as possible. Kind of a put-up or shut-up thing. (I would think your husband would be actively seeking sitters to help because the majority of that responsibility will fall on him anyway.) However, if it is really heart-wrenching for you to go against your family, maybe you could take a few minutes out of your day today and analyze each person individually -- ask yourself how your determination to have a new life would affect THEM and you'll probably have your answers for their behavior. Then you can avoid rehashing your motives and explanations for WLS -- the decision has been made, hasn't it? -- and focus on the positive. In the meantime, try to save for a babysitter, Visiting Nurse, anything -- and involve your husband in your efforts. By the way, as someone who suffered horribly from post-partum depression, too, the liklihood of a recurrent psychotic episode from a condition that is supposedly due to the hormone fluxes and stress of pregnancy would be minimal, wouldn't it? While I have heard of post-surgical depression after WLS, it is a very different thing. But hey -- you're the nurse, right? In my own case, while my husband and adult kids are behind my decision for WLS %110, the rest of my family -- especially my siblings -- have sabotaged my efforts to change my life in the past. My solution is a "need to know" strategy -- I'm not telling them until a week before my surgery. It took me over 40 years to truly understand and accept their motivations were something deep within them and that I can't change them, only myself. (Choosing another lifestyle is NOT rejecting them, but they don't get it.) So, while it's not the perfect solution, I have learned that avoidance sure is heck is the least stressful! They can't drag you down if they can't get a hold of you! GOOD LUCK AND STICK TO YOUR GUNS...