Kim, Jerks like that take advantage of our self estime issues and our desire to not be alone. I should know. I have had one jerk after another my whole life. You did the right thing telling him to go. And, if you have to "have him removed" then go on and DO IT! My last bad jerk almost cost me my freedom (before I get email on that, I know I have to choose). It was before I found out I was bipolar and I was not on meds. My life was out of control. I was about to hit 300lbs. I stoped weighting (so scared of that #). I let myself be taken advantage of because of my great FEAR of being alone (partly also from my father leaving when I was 4). I ended up writing bad checks for him (found out way too far into the "relationship" that the money was going to get him and friends high). If my disability would not have gone through when it did (I had to use my back pay to buy my way out of the situation) I would probibly be serving time in prison for all of that now. The cost totalled over $5,000 in checks fees fines and court costs! And, those are not all the bad things that happened, even with that one guy. -- My point is, Kim, get him out of there while you have the courage. And, keep your eyes open and your heart closed (if need be) until that good man does come around. Love you all, Katrina