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Sharyl 23 years, 3 months ago

Debra: My husband and I went through some of the same things that you are describing. I was thin when we got married and gained close to 150 pounds during the next 15 years. He stuck with me through the weight gains but as I got closer to my consultation he thought maybe I should try losing on my own 1 last time and he would help me by dieting and exercising with me. I appreciated his offer but told him I just couldn't. I made him sit with me one night at our computer going through this site and after he read some of the profiles and saw the before and after pics he looked at things differently. I really think he was feeling threatened that I would leave him after I lost weight. He also went with me to my initial consultation and he felt better after that also. Knowledge seemed to be the key for him. Now he is my biggest supporter and our life together is better than ever, not just in the intimacy department but in everything because I can participate in family outings. Good Luck. Sharyl Loos.

Sheryl Johnson 23 years, 3 months ago

Hi Debra, Let me share my experience. Being that I've only been married a year and a half my husband and I have gotten along real well. I was already very heavy when he met me so he was prepared, but since our wedding I have gone through tremendous medical problems and I've gained another 65 pounds which puts me at a grand total of 365. I can't do any of the things that we did previous to this final weight gain. One thing that I have noticed is...the closer I get to the surgery the more we fight. Now this may not be your case...but it is what I discovered in my case. That is...I am so stressed over all this talk of surgery and all the death issues involved in this surgery that I was being totally self centered. My husband and I had the biggest blow out about 3 Saturdays ago...that's when I realized I was not considering his feelings and how frightened he was over this. He has always supported my dissision for this surgery, and even encouraged it...but suddenly I think he is having second thoughts. He's mentioned the fact that he wouldn't know what to do if he lost me. Although being the maucho man he is...he would never admit he is scared for me...but knowing him as I do...I knew it was the case. So I quite talking about the surgery to him and live for the moment with him and just try to enjoy each other, and only speak to my WLS friends here on the site and the group that we started here in the Valley about the surgery. You really should consider coming to the support group...it will only be once a month and I'm sure there are others there that would love to share a ride with you. Let me know if you ever need to talk. ~God Bless you and yours~

Jeanine E. 23 years, 3 months ago

Hello Debra, I am so sorry from the bottom of my hearton your denial. We go through so much just preparing ourselves for this journey then to have someone take it away--even if only temporarily hurts us to our soul. I will be praying that your phone calls today will be fruitful and have a positive impact on getting the denial reversed. I am sending you (((((Vibes of Good Fortune))))) and ((((Hugs for Comfort and Strength))))

Sharon Neva 23 years, 4 months ago

DEBRA~~I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU ON YOUR BIG DAY ~~ May you always have an Angel by your side..... Watching out for you in all the things you do...... Reminding you to keep believing in brighter days......Finding ways for your wishes and dreams to come true......Giving you hope that is as certain as the sun.....Giving you the strength of serenity as your guide......May you always have love and comfort and courage....May you always have an Angel by your side......Someone there to catch you if you fall, Encouraging your dreams... Inspiring your happiness... holding your hand and helping your through it all.

Naes Wls J. 23 years, 4 months ago

CONGRATULATIONS Best wishes to you on your wls. May you have a speedy recovery and NO complications what so ever. Hang in there and God Bless. Hugs

MommaAngel 23 years, 4 months ago

HI DEBRA I just want you to know that I am praying that everything will go smooth as you journey to the losing side. LORD BLESS

Alice W. 23 years, 4 months ago

Debra Hello~~~so glad that you have begun the journey to reclaim your life! I hope that you will be hearing the sweetest words in the world I'M APPROVED very soon. Wishing you all the very best.