Judy, take lots and lots of time to read, explore and get to know this website. It is a goldmine of valuable information. It has step by step processes to get through all your fears, trials, and questions! Ask people questions, find people in your home town by clicking "find peers" above and email them.. find a local support group. This surgery is not for everyone, but you will find out through research on this place if it is for you! I know it was for me! People have full profiles on here... read at least 2 a day. Good luck and God Bless! Dawn