Kathleen K.

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Stacy C. 23 years, 9 months ago

We are having our surgery on the same day!! I pray yours goes smooth and uneventful ! Please update with any info you have! Your surgery twin, Stacy Cavicchia

klynn90 23 years, 9 months ago

Kathleen, I am feeling what you are feeling too. I am scheduled 8/30/02 Lap RNY. I don't know if you believe in God or not but I do. My husband keeps telling me everytime I tell him I read or heard about another death that it is up to HIM when our time comes, whether we are driving down the road and have an accident, walking across the street and get hit by a car, are sleeping in bed, OR laying on the operating table. It is ALL up to HIM. We each have our own time. I just keep trying to think about that when I start to feel that way. I also keep thinking that without this surgery what will my life be like, how long will I live without it (my Dad died at 52 from congestive heart failure & sleep apnea - he was morbidly obese and I don't want to die that young), what kind of health problems will I have (and how much pain will I have to deal with). I don't know if this helps but I hope it does. Good luck on your decision!!! God Bless!

Lori H. 23 years, 9 months ago

hey Kathleen, I read your post on the message board and just wanted you to know that what you are feeling is only normal. even if you hadnt known about the recent passings you would still be having this fear, it is natural. Just remember the reasons you want this surgery, think of the quality of life you have <u>right now</u> for yourself and your family verses the quality of life <u>you will have</u> after the surgery. Pray about it Kathleen and then do what you feel is right. We support you in whatever decision you make but please dont let fear rule your decision or your life. I dont know about you but as fat as I am/was I was just as tired of fearing leaving the house, fearing the walk from here to there, fearing the ridicule, fearing that no one would know if I just died in my sleep because I had secluded myself, and just plain fear my life getting bigger and bigger.

scrappenmom 23 years, 9 months ago

Kathleen~~Read you Q&A. Hey girl think about where you life might be is you don't have this surgery. Remember--our whole purpose is to live a healthier life and to live period. I know where you coming from regarding your fears of maybe leaving your husband and son. I have the same situation. I look at it this way--they aren't going to have me around much longer if I don't get this done. Right now--I don't have diabetes or high blood pressure or cancer or heart disease--do I waite until I do and take the risk of dying a slow death, always popping pills and feeling like hell. NO!!!--LET'S LIVE NOW!!!

faybay 23 years, 9 months ago

Just believe in yourself. New Yorkers have strong survival instincts, especially if you drive the LIE. All will go well.

Ron E. 23 years, 9 months ago

Kathleen, beleive me, your thoughts are totally normal. Before I was approved for surgery, I coulnd't believe how many people were apprehensive about having surgery, when they were a few weeks out. Then, after I got approved, I had the same jitters. Then a couple people died on this site, and I started voicing concerns to my wife about it. She said I was going to drive myself crazy reading about all these poor people that don't make it. I finally accepted the fact that I was going to be okay, that I had no reason to beleive that I wouldn't make it. I was healthy going in, I felt good, and I knew that I was going to have a successful surgery. Please relax, and know that your feelings are valid, and not unsual in the least. We all know how you feel. We all have been there, and we all get through it. You can do this!!! Good luck, and God bless!

Hellcatmama 23 years, 9 months ago

I feel that you will come through this with flying colors!!!! My prayers are with you! May God Bless you and Peace~~~

Becca K. 23 years, 10 months ago

"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, any one can start from now and make a brand new ending." May you always have an Angel by your side. Watching out for you in all the things you do. Reminding you to keep believing in brighter days. Have a safe journey to the other side and a speedy recovery.

Giovanna G. 23 years, 10 months ago

Hi Kathleen....Congrats on your surgery date. Wishing you a quick and easy recovery. Be strong.

Dana R. 23 years, 10 months ago

Congratulations on your upcoming surgery. I am having surgery on Aug 16th. Good luck with everything.