Kathleen J.

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Sally S. 23 years, 10 months ago

BTW, Kathy, I also have a black/tan dachshund named Holle. She is my "baby" and I do not know how I will be in the hospital without her. She is always WITH me. I am mostly housebound, so she is spoiled with always having ME around. She is my 3rd dachshund in my life. She will be 9 in August. Also loves snacks. So Holle will get skinny, too, when all the junk food will be leaving the house. :) She is my buddy through all my ups and downs.

L. Brown 23 years, 10 months ago

Kathleen, you are ultimately the one person who is responsible for the decisions you make for your own health and wellbeing. Both your mother and husband had the surgery at a time when it was not as widely done and studied, and before the adjustments to it were made to correct problems with it. You are an intelligent woman who knows that without this surgery, you will have only more and more problems with your arthritis, your breathing problems, and your heart. Your husband will have to deal with his insecurities, your mother will have to mind her own business. If this is what you really want to do, you have much support here on this site, and we are all pulling for you.

Jessica A. 23 years, 10 months ago

I wish you the best of luck in whatever decision you may come to. I know first hand how you are feeling. At first I didnt have much support either. I just kept at my family until they finally are able to talk about it without making negative statements. Dont give up on YOU! Follow your heart FOR YOU! Take care and May God Bless You! Jessica

Sally S. 23 years, 10 months ago

I know how you feel. I, too, am dying in this huge body. Morbid obesity is a slow and painful death, and I often say it should be listed as cruel and unusual punishment. I am scared to death, but I also KNOW I will die without it, so what really IS the risk? Die now?, or later?, after suffering miserably with constant arthritis pain and no life. And WHEN it is a success, you WILL get better and have a life. Use your AMOS family for support. Move ahead. Go forward. Make the difference in YOUR life. Cuz it IS your life. You have nothing to lose, except this miserable existance in a MO body. I am tired of waiting, too, but I have to, like everyone else. I struggle every single day to just get thru it. I completely understand your pain. Tough it out, Kathy. We ALL SUPPORT YOU!!! God Bless. -SASRN :)

Want2bslim 23 years, 10 months ago

Kathleen, do as others have told you--follow your heart. I know several people that had surgery years ago, but they don't do it like anymore. Explain this to your family. Maybe you could find a support meeting and get your family to go with you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Leah S. 23 years, 10 months ago

Kathleen let me tell you one thing for sure. You will not die before your time. When that is no one knows. Did your Mom go wacko after her surgery? Did your Dad stick to the guidelines? This is you and you are a whole different person. I am trapped now too in a fat body but Thank God in a little more than a week I will be crossing over to the losing side so I can be a big WINNER. Do as your heart leads you, you come first. Take care.

tinalivesay 23 years, 10 months ago

Kathleen, My prayers are with you on your choices you have to make. I know several people who's husbands didn't want them to have the surgery, it is that they are just afraid of the "effects". May the LORD our GOD BLESS You

A J. 23 years, 10 months ago

I am with you too!! Please think of whats best for you. My husband really would rather not see me do this procedure, but he has finally come to the decision that he will support me, even if he is still shaky on accepting that WLS is a good thing. You know, at least I hope that your family will come around for you. My sister in law had surgery probably nearly 20 years ago too. She had the same problems you face. Her mom was strongly against her having the surgery, but by the time she went in to have it she was there for her. At first she wouldnt even speak to her. Things change, and people begin to accept what they have no control over. My sister in law did gain back her weight too over the course of these years, but she also said that the procedures are soooooo much better now, and the support is better, and now they give you a more realistic diet to follow that she is even thinking about having a revision. I hope she does it. She told me (and she is my hubbys own sister) that if I could get approved that I should go for it. Go for it!!!! Can you beleive that someone who has had it before and gained it all back and has a completely unsupportive hubby would do it again??? I personally feel it is a good deal, and I think you would be happier if you did it, but like the other posters have said it is only a decision you can make. You gotta protect your health and quality of life. One other thing that I always think about is this; Even Dr. Phil on Oprah talks about this for other reasons.... If you take care of you, you will be able to be a better help to your family. You must take care of number one in order to have anything left to give to the others in your life! Godd luck in whatever you decide. E-mail me anytime. I am still in the process myself. I am waiting for approval from Kaiser they said I may know by 6-28-02!! Pray for me, and you are already on ly list of people to pray for. Hugs!

Carrie D. 23 years, 10 months ago

Kathleen, pray and you will know what to do. I am just putting my trust in God about this decision to have surgery that i have made. Maybe I'm nuts but I told myself if it wasn't meant to be I'd be denied. I got approved first try though. Some of my family is supportive and some are not. Actually only one is not. But still I know that you must be going through a lot of anguish with this. I was amazed to read two members of your family had this done and so long ago. I don't know how there health is now but the fact that they are alive 25 years later is a good reason in itself to me. The surgery from what I understand has greatly improved and the only question I had is with the new procedures they don't have concrete long term information about how we are 20 and 30 years down the road. However well your mom and husband are I would think you would be even better health wise with the improvements. You will make the right decision for you. Best wishes.

Brenda M. 23 years, 10 months ago

Kathleen, please don't give up. You need to do what you feel is right for your body. I'm too was not supported at first but now my family is behind me 100%. Now that I have explained how miserable I am they all say go for it. I really don't think they saw me as fat so they didn't understand how bad I feel all the time. My surgery is June 11th and can hardly wait to get to the other sied. If you decide this is right for you (and you are the only one that can) you will have my support and prayers. May God Bless You.