Hi Christina, My husband said something similar to me about not wanting to talk about it so much and I found out it was because he was afraid of the possible risks (death). He was trying to deal with it by not thinking about it. It wasn't until I was having trouble with my mom having this issue that he admitted to me that he was scared too. We talked about it and he is now 250% in support of the operation and understands the risk of surgery isn't any greater than the risks of being this heavy, it's just more immediate. Good luck, be patient, if he loves you, he will work it out. Julia